Bethany Joy Lenz Had “Sex Schedule” in Marriage to “Cult” Leader’s Son

Bethany Joy Lenz Had "Sex Schedule" in Marriage to "Cult" Leader's Son

As a dedicated fan of Bethany Joy Lenz, it’s heartbreaking to see her share such personal and challenging experiences from her past. Her journey through a difficult marriage and involvement with a cult-like organization is a testament to her resilience and courage.


Bethany Joy Lenz is getting candid about a hard time in her life. 

For approximately ten years, the actress who played on “One Tree Hill” has openly discussed her experience as part of The Big House Family organization, which she refers to as a cult. Now, she is elaborating on how enduring a challenging marriage during that period has had a profound and lasting impact on her personal life.

On the October 16th episode of the Call Her Daddy podcast, Bethany confided that she had an incredibly strong sexual desire. She found it remarkable that she hadn’t had sex until her marriage. It seemed to her that the abstinence she was taught as a good evangelical was more like a hollow promise.

The 43-year-old stated, “I assumed that by waiting for marriage, I would experience extraordinary sex and profound connection. However, when we made love, instead of feeling closer, I felt more distant. I don’t believe this disconnect was due to my decision to wait for marriage; rather, it was because I married someone who wasn’t the right fit for me.

Due to their marital difficulties, she and her spouse, whom she refers to as QB (as he was also the son of the organization’s head), devised a “sex schedule” to address their intimacy problems. This was particularly necessary because her husband frequently traveled between the Pacific Northwest and Wilmington, where she worked on the show “One Tree Hill.

She explained to host Alex Cooper that since she had little interest in sexual activity, she was required to follow a specific routine. Essentially, they said, “You simply must comply. Just comply. This is your role as a spouse. Your feelings will align eventually. If you do it frequently enough, then you’ll discover a way to take pleasure in it.

Bethany Joy Lenz Had "Sex Schedule" in Marriage to "Cult" Leader's Son

As a lifestyle advisor, I’d confess that I reluctantly adhered to a particular routine in my marriage with the intention of maintaining harmony. However, this structured way of life unwittingly amplified my anxiety and dissatisfaction within the relationship, as it was clear that we would continue to abide by this schedule upon his return from his travels, even when he arrived back home.

Whenever something scary happened, my heart would race as if it fell out of my body,” she explained. “Later on, these experiences had a significant impact on my relationships, especially when I’d have to collect my partners from the airport. I found myself struggling with PTSD after knowing that the scheduled intimate encounters were about to start for the next few weeks.

Bethany didn’t disclose who “QB” is, but she mentioned they have a child together. Previously, she was married to Michael Galeotti for five years. The marriage ended in 2012, and they share a 13-year-old daughter named Rosie.

TopMob News has reached out to Michael for comments, but has not heard back.

Reflecting on that period, Bethany acknowledges that she and her spouse shared limited interests. Feeling constrained in her romantic choices due to being unable to date anyone who wasn’t a Christian or fell outside her community, Bethany found herself in an “arranged-like” relationship with QB.

Bethany Joy Lenz Had "Sex Schedule" in Marriage to "Cult" Leader's Son

But despite the difficulty, Bethany did admit that she felt empathy for her ex husband.

I couldn’t help but feel deeply saddened as I reflected on his situation, knowing full well that he had been dealt an unfair hand from the start. Raised by a self-centered individual, he was unwillingly thrust into a union with a woman who wasn’t a suitable match for him. Despite his best efforts, he continues to struggle and persevere.

She added, “It was just a mess all around.”

While Bethany emphasized that the marriage wasn’t suitable for either of them, she also mentioned that it was challenging for her to view it in a negative light due to having an extraordinary daughter, thus implying a sense of uncertainty about the situation.

In her forthcoming memoir, “Dinner for Vampires: Life on a Cult TV Show (And Real-Life Cult Experiences)“, this former Dexter actress shares her story of becoming part of the group and how that happened.

She shared with People that she had long yearned for a sense of belonging. She described the experience as if it initially appeared ordinary, but eventually transformed in ways she didn’t notice until she was deeply involved in the connections.

After around a decade of being part of it, she eventually discovered some issues with the community and came to understand that it was time for her to leave.

She stated, “The consequences were immense because they represented my sole circle of friends. I became part of this community through marriage, and I structured my life around it. If I acknowledged my mistakes, the entire structure could collapse.

Read More

2024-10-19 01:17