Rachael Kirkconnell Exposes Shocking Truth About Matt James After Their Split!

Rachael Kirkconnell is remembering the red flags during her relationship with Matt James.

About two weeks following their split, the former lovers – who discovered their romance during season 25 of The Bachelor in 2021 – have been apart for four years, the 28-year-old looked back at challenging phases in their relationship.

In March 2021, there was a split between the two due to racially offensive photos of Rachael causing backlash on social media. Although they reconciled shortly after, Rachael has recently spoken about the deceptions she encountered during their separation, particularly regarding whether the 33-year-old was seeing other people during that time.

Rachael clarified to Alex Cooper during their Jan 28 conversation on “Call Her Daddy”, “At that time, I wasn’t even thinking about dating others. I was barely managing to get out of bed, and my emotional state was such that dating was completely off the table for me.

However, unlike the graphic designer who hadn’t considered it at all, her ex-partner seemed to have this idea simmering in the back of their mind.

Rachel clarified, “His daily conversations and his words felt as though they weren’t sincere at times, but I now realize that wasn’t accurate – he absolutely was.

“That’s okay because we were broken up,” she added, “I just wish I knew.”

As it transpired, Rachael learned that Matt was dating another woman from a Bachelor blogger known as Reality Steve, who had reached out to her brother’s girlfriend. The situation became more complicated because Rachael discovered this while she was with Matt himself.

She confided that she felt extremely hurt as it seemed he had concealed something significant from her. Technically, he didn’t tell a direct lie since she never asked, but there might have been some deception involved. As she reflects on the situation now, she wonders if there were indeed falsehoods, given how intensely upset she was when she discovered the truth and how adamant she was in accusing him of deceiving her.

She said, “I recall angrily leaving his home, and I exclaimed something like, ‘We’re through, don’t contact me again,’ due to discovering a great deal of information all at once.

After feeling somewhat puzzled by recent events, I found myself engaged in a lengthy, yet fruitful discussion with Matt in a parking garage in Atlanta about a week afterwards. We managed to find common ground and rekindle our connection during that heart-to-heart talk.

She reminisced, “It was the type of situation where he said, ‘Grant me an opportunity,’ but ‘I’m sorry, I truly love you, and I want to be with you, and I’ve had enough of these games. Let’s make a genuine effort, let’s reconcile.’

“I gave him a chance,” she added, “because I love him.”

Approximately four years on, they’ve parted paths once more, and Rachel doesn’t anticipate a reunion in the future this time around.

What caused their recent split, according to Rachael, is that Matt ended the relationship while they were in Tokyo.

She informed the podcast host that, in summary, he expressed concerns about certain aspects of her character that might be problematic in a spouse, or simply stated they weren’t a good match.

Keep reading for more of the biggest bombshells from Rachael’s interview…

Prior to their unexpected separation following four years of dating, Rachael Kirkconnell reveals that she and Matt James had previously talked about the prospect of getting engaged and starting a family together. She shared this in her January 28th conversation on the podcast “Call Her Daddy”.

She mentioned the topic of engagement rings. He had suggested months earlier that she should start saving, perhaps choosing items or visiting stores to look at them. For him, this was a significant statement, indicating his readiness for their relationship to progress in this way. This moment struck her as a clear indication of his commitment, serving as a ‘green light’ for her. Over time, she noticed that it became easier for him to discuss the subject, suggesting that initial apprehension or difficulty was slowly fading away, which she took as a positive sign.

While in Tokyo, it was noted that Rachael and her partner had minor disputes, primarily arising from Rachael feeling “overwhelmed” by deciding where to dine and where Matt could film his content. These smaller conflicts eventually escalated into larger problems they faced as a couple.

In simpler terms, the 28-year-old stated that they had a disagreement on the spot, similar to walking down the street. They skipped their meal and returned to their hotel, leading to a more extensive discussion. They were slightly upset with each other at the time, but it seemed like being back in the same place brought out our mutual annoyance. He felt I was wrong, and I felt he was wrong. Essentially, he vented feelings that had been building up for some time, and I wasn’t sure about them.

According to Rachael’s account, Matt expressed concerns about certain characteristics of hers that he felt might be problematic in a spouse, as he put it, “by the close of the day.

She remembered thinking, “As the day ended, there were aspects of our relationship that didn’t align perfectly. It became clear to him that by this stage in our partnership, he believed he should be eager to propose and prepared for it. However, he admitted that neither he nor our relationship seemed ready or equipped for such a step. He questioned whether he would ever propose to me or envision himself married to me.

Four years have passed, and he mentioned, “Perhaps someday he may arrive, but he doesn’t feel prepared at the moment.” I responded by saying, “To be honest, I believe that after this length of time, one should either know or feel ready. If not, then it might not be a positive sign. If we continue together and you still don’t feel this way after four years, given that you know me better than anyone else, it could indicate some underlying issues.

While on her way to leave Tokyo by plane, the Bachelor Nation star found out about their breakup becoming public due to Matt’s Instagram post declaring their separation. Unfortunately, she couldn’t get online for another 12 hours after that.

She mentioned, “I’m about to board a plane, but my phone suddenly starts buzzing.” It was one of her closest friends, with a message saying merely ‘Rach’ followed by several question marks. As soon as she saw that, she thought, “Oh my goodness, how did she find out?” Then her friend texted again, revealing, “I saw Matt’s post. Is this actually happening?” This is how she discovered he had posted something. In the meantime, the plane was taking off, and I couldn’t respond or check anything for the following twelve hours due to lack of service.

She went on to express her distress, explaining that she’s reeling from a recent breakup and, to make matters worse, it’s all over the world to see now. Even though hours have passed, she’s still struggling to comprehend it. In disbelief, she remarked, “This is just too wild! I can hardly grasp it at the moment.

Rachael observed that Matt’s social media post had provided her with a definitive answer about their situation, as his action essentially sealed their relationship, saying “it was the final blow.

In our subsequent conversation, I’ve gained insight into his thought process. Indeed, he now concedes that it was an incorrect choice he made.

She stated on Call Her Daddy that she no longer believes their relationship can continue. The way he expressed his feelings about their future together, saying things like “I don’t think you’re my person” and “I don’t see us getting married,” made her feel disrespected. Even though she has forgiven him, she doesn’t believe she can be with someone who treated her that way.

She commented, “Sometimes, you need to assert yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable. A part of me yearns for a chance to reconcile and ignore the past, but that’s not an option now. I believe it’s tough, but I think the best course of action is to stand firm and go my own way.

2025-01-30 19:19

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