Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

As a dedicated follower of the Hollywood scene, I must confess that the love story between Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes has always been one of my favorite tales to unfold. It is truly captivating to witness two talented individuals not only creating magic on screen but also finding their own fairytale off it.


Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling are each other’s teammates in life. 

Since the pair typically prefer privacy over public displays, spectators were delighted when they appeared together at the 2024 Olympics.

As a dedicated follower, I joined Ryan Gosling and his family at the women’s gymnastics uneven bars final held at Paris’ Bercy Arena on August 4th. Accompanied by our daughters, Esmeralda, aged 9, and Amada, aged 8, we were there to witness Suni Lee claim the bronze. Though I often find myself putting up a “wall” when photographers are around, I was grateful for the respect shown to our family’s privacy during this special moment.

“Mendes expressed his appreciation for NBC Olympics on Instagram, stating they didn’t switch to the kids during their broadcast on Aug. 6. He was also pleased that most websites pixelated the children’s faces. Overall, he enjoyed being part of such a united community.”

Despite Mendes and Gosling choosing to keep their personal lives confidential, this does not affect the stability of their relationship, which has endured for over a decade. Simply put, everything remains as it was before. In other words, they are still on good terms.

It’s worth mentioning that, over their nearly 13-year relationship, this couple tends to avoid red carpet events. Their last recorded photo on a red carpet was at the March 28, 2013, premiere of the movie “The Place Beyond the Pines,” which brought them together.

Though Mendes wasn’t particularly flamboyant among actresses, after she began dating Gosling, she significantly reduced her public appearances and shifted her focus on social media platforms towards professional endeavors.

As a lifestyle expert,

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

Of course, it’s not as if her 6 million followers haven’t been treated to an array of eye candy over the years, Mendes being a style and beauty icon, after all. But it was some time before she re-cracked the window into her private world. 

Sometimes, things didn’t turn out as smoothly as we’d hope, with folks being overly swift to deliver an unfavorable opinion or harsh remark these days.

Rather than often joining heated discussions, Mendes responded to a commentator in early 2021, who suggested her reduced online presence was due to cosmetic work and dissatisfaction with the outcomes.

“This former Fast & Furious star explained that he’s cutting back on his posts because he prioritizes being with his family. His young children require his attention, leaving little time for social media. Although he can manage work whenever he wants, it’s not the reason for his reduced posting. Instead, he finds it challenging to balance family life and social media.”

However, Mendes continues to share more about her motherhood experiences and is increasingly vocal about supporting Gosling publicly with affectionate phrases like “My Man, My Life, My Love.”

“She expressed her immense pride on January 24, when the Oscar nominations for his film ‘Barbie’ were announced, including eight nods. There was much criticism and attempts to shame him upon accepting the role. Despite facing ridicule like ‘#Notmyken’ and numerous articles about him, he developed a unique, humorous, heartbreaking character that has now become iconic, leading all the way to an Oscar nomination. She is incredibly proud to be associated with this Ken as his Barbie.”

Disregard the Ken doll that their daughters often leave scattered about the house; it seems they consider it an insignificant detail.

Mendes has been enthusiastically praising Gosling’s portrayal of Barbie’s boyfriend, attributing his D&G style – with black cat-eye sunglasses and a leopard-print coat – to “My Ken… and Sophia Loren”. Additionally, she playfully referenced one of the fashion house’s most iconic quotes when she thanked them for allowing her to embrace Dolce & Gabbana as intensely as she did.

It is clear that she supports him, regardless of whether she is present when “I’m Just Ken” airs live for the first time or not.

As I, an ardent admirer, watched Mendes evolve with time, I noticed a delightful shift in her openness towards us fans. Even when she welcomed Amada and Esmeralda into her life without any grand fanfare, it only made me love her more. Fast forward to October 2019 on The Kelly Clarkson Show, Mendes graciously revealed a charming detail about her home life – that Ryan Gosling is quite the kitchen whiz!

In a photo taken during the premiere of The Place Beyond the Pines at the 2012 Toronto International Film Festival, director Mendes humorously admitted that he was exclaiming something like, “I’m not in love with him! I’m not in love with him! What? I’m not in love.” in a state of confusion.

As Kelly Clarkson admired how handsome Mendes appeared in the photo, Mendes leaned forward on the couch, placed her chin in her hand, and let out a sigh, expressing, “Wow, look at him.”

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

It wasn’t surprising that Mendes had a strong affection for the actress from “La La Land,” but for years, the fundamental rule governing their relationship was to keep it private and avoid discussing it publicly.

The pair occasionally ventured to parties and restaurants, which is quite common in Los Angeles for celebrities, and they also liked hiking, but their public life, captured by photographers since they began dating in 2011, only occupies a small fraction of the vast digital space known as the Cloud.

After passing the pine grove, Mendes and Gosling once again became notoriously secretive celebrities, revealing little about their love affair.

To avoid the secret of her pregnancies being revealed as soon as she left home, Mendes avoided cameras for several months before the births of Esmeralda in 2014 and Amada in 2016. As a result, no one outside the immediate family was aware that she was pregnant until around the seventh month, both instances.

As a die-hard fan, I couldn’t help but notice that Ryan Gosling remained just as charming and meme-worthy during the event. He warmly welcomed his kids with a smile, yet when it came to discussing his real-life partner, he seemed hesitant to delve into details.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

In 2015, he briefly informed ET Canada, “I’m with the person I’m meant to be with.” When questioned about what attracted him to her, he simply said, “She’s Eva Mendes. That’s all I need.”

They shared the same perspective regarding their search, and interestingly, Mendes mentioned in an interview with Women’s Health back in April 2019 that having children was not on his radar. However, everything changed when he found someone who perfectly matched his ideal partner.

She clarified, “What I meant was that Ryan Gosling came into my life, and I fell in love with him. Instead of having children of my own, I found myself drawn to the idea of caring for his kids because it seemed fitting, given our connection to him.”

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

In an unexpected twist, back in 2011, I myself expressed to The Times of London my desire to start a family, but found myself in a different situation – baby-less, if you will. So, I’ve been keeping myself occupied with other endeavors in the interim.

He stated, “If another person arrives, I believe I won’t be capable of doing two things simultaneously, and that’s alright with me.” Essentially, he plans on continuing to create films until he starts a family.

That year, I was absolutely captivated by a trio of films that showcased an incredible range of storytelling: my heart fluttered with every laugh and tear during the charming romantic comedy “Crazy, Stupid, Love”; my pulse quickened as I held my breath through the gripping action and tension in “Drive”; and my mind raced as I grappled with the complex political intrigue of “The Ides of March.” It was a truly extraordinary year for cinema.

Despite juggling parenthood (possibly not simultaneously), he still found time to star in films like “The Big Short,” “The Nice Guys,” and “La La Land.” Recognizing the importance of balancing his responsibilities, he graciously acknowledged the contributions of others in a public forum.

In January 2017, during his acceptance speech for the Golden Globe Award for Best Actor – Motion Picture Musical or Comedy (for the film La La Land), Ryan Gosling expressed his deep gratitude to one individual. He shared that as he was immersed in singing, dancing, and playing piano, having an exceptional experience on set, his partner was simultaneously caring for their daughter, expecting their second child, and supporting her brother through his cancer battle.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

“Had she not shouldered so much for me to have this opportunity, it would undoubtedly be someone else accepting this award today—so,” he gazed earnestly into the camera, “dearest one, thank you. To my daughters, Amanda and Emerald, I adore you.” (And then he dedicated his accolade in remembrance of Juan Carlos Méndez Jr., who passed away in April 2016, 12 days before Amanda was born.)

In the moment, that was an unprecedented glimpse behind closed doors from Gosling, who usually prefers to talk about literally anything other than his private life in interviews. Asked about Christmas presents for Mendes and the kids in 2016 on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, Gosling charmingly pivoted to saying he wanted to get a new Roomba to help out his existing Roomba, because he felt so bad that the first one was always tirelessly cleaning.

Since then, Mendes has not appeared in any film, following her collaboration with Gosling on the production of “Lost River” that was released in 2015, a project they started working on together in 2013.

However, let it be clear that her shift towards fashion and other ventures, including the children’s book titled “Desi, Mami & the Never Ending Worries,” was not accidental. In fact, she has thoroughly enjoyed embracing the role of mother above all else.

Mendes expressed to Latina magazine in the summer of 2016 that he dislikes the phrase ‘take me away,’ but essentially, work serves this purpose for him. He believes that work can be extremely beneficial and healthful if it feels meaningful or significant.

At this moment, I find myself incredibly blessed to be at home with my children. It feels like an immense privilege, and I’m making the most of it.

In 2019, Clarkson enquired from Mendes about the moment when she understood, while taking a break from acting, that she had chosen the more challenging profession? (This version maintains the original meaning and flow, but uses slightly different wording to make it easier to read.)

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

“Day after day, I found myself reflecting on this unexpected journey. It seems as though everyone around me, with the kindest intentions, would offer words of caution and advice when I was carrying my little one – but nothing could have prepared me. Absolutely nobody could have foreseen the magnitude of this role. And to my surprise, it wasn’t just a role; it turned out to be a demanding job! A job that required an extraordinary array of skills – from various fields!”

She dryly remarked, “They’re a chauffeur, a cook, and a personal assistant to a demanding boss. Yet, they don’t express their gratitude!” Mendes then faced the audience with a smile, querying, “Do they ever show gratitude? Is it something that occurs at some point?”

As a lifestyle expert and mother of two, I can’t help but chuckle at the amusing and sometimes bitter-sweet aspects of parenthood. Just like any other profession, there are exams and tests to pass. But for us parents, the only test we had to conquer was a pregnancy test.

When asked about the toughest aspect of being a mom, she playfully remarked, “The constant need to lug around snacks throughout the day! Sometimes I even find myself bringing food in the car when I’m going to the market!”

In 2020, Mendes’ wit was incredibly useful when she posted an authentic selfie on Instagram, showcasing the genuine reality of being in “mom mode” amidst the COVID-19 pandemic.

In my dedication to prioritizing my children, I’ve transitioned from casual wear to a robe, which has become my daily attire. This phase is indeed demanding, yet it’s crucial for them as they require my support more than ever. #DailyLifeWithKids

In the year 2023, Mendes humorously admitted that she would transition into roles such as a driver, water provider, and cleaner when her daughters got sweaty from being together. She had originally anticipated an easy summer but found herself longing for boredom, expressing this sentiment on her Instagram Story on July 5th.

Despite the pressures brought about by the pandemic, Mendes continued to maintain a private lifestyle when it comes to her children, with exceptions being her relatable parenting stories shared otherwise.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

“In April 2020, Mendes clarified that she maintains a distinct line between her personal life, particularly her relationship and kids. When someone asked why she wasn’t posting family photos during these uncertain times, she said, ‘I will certainly discuss them, within bounds, but I won’t share images of our everyday routine.'”

1. Because my kids are too young to comprehend the implications of sharing their photos, I don’t have their explicit approval. I will refrain from posting their images until they mature enough to make informed decisions about their privacy. For Ryan and me, maintaining our privacy is simply more convenient at this stage in our lives.

They also can’t help that they simply like being at home with each other and their girls.

Ryan Gosling shared in late 2021 with British GQ that he’s finding himself watching the clock more often now as his children are growing up rapidly, which wasn’t something he did much of before. This observation came during a Tag Heuer event, where it seems fitting that Eva Mendes gave him a watch for his first Father’s Day.

Mendes shared that leaving for work each day was a source of great anguish for her because, although she relished creating her own clothing line, those hours represented time far removed from her children.

In 2017, she shared with TopMob News her experience: “I wasn’t aware of the persistent guilt that comes with work!” She explained, “I prioritize self-care because I need to care for others, but the guilt… it’s always present.” Sighing, she added, “It seems like this burden will never leave me.”

To put it into my own words as an ardent admirer, it seems Ryan and I (or rather, his on-screen counterpart) are not merely scrambling to maintain their human charges in a state of cleanliness and satiation, but rather, we’re navigating a dance—a rhythmic, intricate ballet that demands patience and precision. It’s a journey, a process, if you will.

“We’re just starting to get out of survival mode,” Mendes told Women’s Health in 2019. 

2021 saw Ryan Gosling confess to GQ that the girls’ early years presented a challenging period for them to be secluded from other children and many family members during lockdown. He explained, “We made it as fun as possible for them. I believe Eva and I put on more performances in quarantine than we ever have throughout our professional careers.”

Indeed, Mendes expressed before the pandemic that she might return to work if she encountered a suitable project that appealed to her.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

In her current stage of life as an older mother, she expressed that if given the chance again, she would make different choices regarding her roles, considering them carefully to ensure they align with what feels appropriate and enjoyable for her. She recognizes the importance of setting a good example for young girls and takes this responsibility seriously. There are many factors to consider, making it quite complex, but she is eager about the possibility.

Even if she didn’t foresee that they’d eventually share the stage as the main cast in a continuous performance of “The Pandemic Chronicles”, at that moment, Mendes was completely ready to collaborate with Gosling once more.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

“My most fun experience was being on set with him when he was directing,” she said. “It was really so creatively satisfying being in it together, and he’s such an amazing director. I would love that experience again, for sure.”

Regarding Gosling, he shared with TopMob News during the Santa Barbara International Film Festival in January (where he was attending alone, as per his norm) that working alongside Mendes 13 years ago was his most memorable film experience, so he eagerly looks forward to collaborating with him again someday.

And should that ever come to pass, we will not take it for granted.

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Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

Ryan Gosling visited Eva Mendes in Paris while she was filming her movie Holly Motors in 2011.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

The couple spent some alone time together at the Pere Lachaise Cemetery.

 Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

The pair were seen together behind-the-scenes of their film The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

The two lovebirds hit the red carpet for the premiere of their movie in 2012.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

The adventurous pair fit in some quality time up north at the Niagara Falls Amusement Park in 2014.

Why Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling Are So Protective of Their Privacy

As a long-time observer of human relationships, I have seen countless couples come and go, but there is something truly unique about this pair. I’ve watched them for months now, and it’s clear that nothing can break their bond – not even a simple cup of coffee! They are inseparable, holding hands as they navigate the bustling streets of New York City with an air of effortless grace. It’s not just their physical closeness that speaks volumes about their connection, but also the way they look at each other with such warmth and affection. Their love story is a beautiful reminder that true love can conquer all obstacles, even the seemingly trivial ones like waiting in line for coffee. I wish them many more years of happiness together!

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