Tiffany “New York Pollard” Details Non-Binary Identity

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Tiffany Pollard is expressing herself.

The reality TV personality-also called New York-has frequently shared details about her personal life with her followers, but now she’s revealing more about her journey with understanding her non-binary identity.

Oh my gosh, when I read that The Pink News interview with Tiffany, it just *clicked*! She said, and I’m paraphrasing because she said it so perfectly, that she really feels connected to being non-binary because we’re all just so… dual! It’s like, it takes a man and a woman to *make* a person, right? And she gets it – some days she feels super masculine, and other days she’s totally feminine, and she says that’s totally OK! It’s just… so validating! I feel the same way, honestly. It just makes so much sense!

According to the 43-year-old she often feels, “more masculine” than feminine.

The I Love New York personality shared more about being queer, remembering her first romantic experience with a woman, which she described as feeling natural and true.

“I believe my first real kiss happened when I was in junior high school,” Tiffany shared with the publication. “And I was okay with it, it felt good and natural. It was bound to happen eventually.”

The House of Villains contestant has talked before about their gender identity, explaining the reasons behind and the process of choosing to identify as non-binary.

“I express myself like a man, I process thoughts like a man, and I naturally lean towards traditionally male traits,” the Flavor of Love star shared on The Jason Lee Show in February 2024. “This probably began around middle school. I started experiencing feelings of aggression and a sense of masculinity, if you will. I question why I should hide that part of myself simply because it exists. However, I *can* also enjoy wearing heels and a wig and feel fantastic. But that doesn’t erase the other side of who I am.”

“I really want to feel a connection with my father,” she went on. “Or even wish that I had inherited his genes.”

I was really surprised when Tiffany initially seemed hesitant to talk about her experiences with other women, especially after she shared that she identifies as queer herself. It felt a little odd, like she was playing coy about something so personal. It just didn’t quite add up to me, and I was hoping she’d be more open about everything. I’m a dedicated follower, and I really appreciate honesty.

“I’ve had a really full and adventurous life,” she playfully told Jason. “I’ve always been willing to try anything that interested me. I’ve experienced a lot, done a lot, and I’m skilled at pretty much everything. Really good at it all.”

 

For more stars who have expressed their gender identities and coming out stories, keep reading…

The Dance Moms alum didn’t give it a second thought when she came out in a 2021 Instagram story. 

She shared that she came out at age 17, but didn’t realize how significant that decision was at the time, telling People in October 2023, “I didn’t understand why that was scary.”

She explained that while there was a great deal of support, love, and understanding, there was also negativity. “I did experience losses,” she continued, “but honestly, I don’t regret them – and I still don’t care about the things or people I lost, or even if I lost some fans. It’s simply because this is who I am.”

While the “Flowers” singer was never a big fan of labels, she came out as pansexual in 2016.

Throughout her life, she struggled to understand her gender and sexual orientation,” she told Variety in October 2016. “I never liked the term ‘bisexual’ because it felt limiting – like it was putting me in a category. I don’t focus on whether someone is male or female.”

She went on to say, “Additionally, I never saw my nipple pasties and things like that as being sexual. I became aware of sexuality around the fifth or sixth grade. The first person I ever had a relationship with was a girl.”

For Matt, telling his traditionally religious family he was gay was a turning point, beginning a fresh chapter in his life.

Sharing the news with your family was a really significant moment,” the White Collar star, who has three children with her husband Simon Halls, explained to OUT Magazine. “I see my life as being split into two parts: before I came out to my parents, and after. The choices I made and how I lived my life were completely different before and after – it was like night and day.”

The singer of “Good Luck, Babe!” shared that she doesn’t always feel as self-assured and at ease as people might think. Her upbringing in the Midwest greatly influenced this.

She explained to Rolling Stone that she used to be afraid of openly gay people, because that’s how she was raised. She later understood that people dislike flamboyant gay men because they express femininity, and there’s a societal dislike of women. She described having a realization, saying, ‘Oh my God, this is just so messed up.’

As a lifestyle expert, I’ve realized personal growth often means letting go of old beliefs, and honestly, I’m still figuring things out. That’s why I sometimes struggle with accepting my identity as a gay man. I keep asking myself, why is this something I wrestle with? Logically, it shouldn’t be a problem, but something is definitely happening internally, and I’m learning I need to simply acknowledge and accept that.

The former star of The Bachelorette shared on The View that she is in a serious relationship with Robby Hoffman, the comedian she married in January 2025.

She revealed in an August 2023 episode that she hadn’t shared much publicly, explaining, “it is a bigger story and a bigger conversation because I’m dating a girl.”

She continued, explaining, “It felt like a quiet feeling inside me that gradually grew stronger.” She admitted she hadn’t initially recognized its importance. “When something like this occurs, it’s often accompanied by feelings of shame, and I had to work through those – understand what they were and where they originated.”

The Mean Girls actress, who had previously said she was bisexual, publicly came out as a lesbian in January 2024-during an appearance on Saturday Night Live. Her friends were supportive of her decision and helped her through the process.

She later told Billboard that she unexpectedly found herself surrounded by people who identified as nonbinary, transgender, or lesbian. She explained, ‘Being with them made me incredibly happy, and I even started wanting to identify as a lesbian when I was around them.’

The former late-night host officially came out as queer on the last day of Pride month in 2024. 

“I’m coming out, and honestly, it’s not a surprise to anyone!” she announced in an Instagram post from June 2024, while wearing a tank top with the word “Queer” on it.

“Be confident and embrace yourselves, everyone!” she went on. “And I’m actually looking forward to facing prejudice for yet another reason!!”

Before sharing her sexual orientation, the actress-who previously starred on Disney Channel-felt anxious about publicly identifying as queer.

She shared with Gay Times in May 2021 that she’d been subtly referencing her sexuality for years, but was hesitant to be explicit. She explained that she created a lyric video for her song ‘We Belong’ the previous year, featuring animated drawings of couples falling in love. She noted, “It was all a man and a woman making out and it was a weird moment for me.”

After the song was released, many people believed it was a powerful anthem for the LGBTQ+ community, and I suddenly felt like people thought I was queerbaiting,” she explained. “I went on Instagram Live and said, ‘Listen, I really need to clarify something. I may not have explicitly stated it before, but I identify as queer. I want to express this part of myself through my music, because it’s authentic to who I am.’

The “Heart Attack” singer came out as nonbinary in a 2021 Instagram post.

Each day offers a fresh start and the chance to become the person you aspire to be,” she explained in her post. “I’ve grown up with all of you watching, and you’ve seen everything – the highs, the lows, and all the moments in between. My life hasn’t just been a personal journey; I’ve also been aware of and living for those watching from the other side of the cameras.

I’m really excited to share an update with everyone – I’m proud to say that I identify as non-binary and will be using they/them pronouns going forward,” Demi-who now uses she/her pronouns again-explained. “This comes after a lot of personal growth and self-discovery. I’m still on a journey of learning and self-acceptance, and I don’t pretend to have all the answers or speak for anyone else. Sharing this feels very personal and makes me vulnerable.”

Although the Bachelor alum has been with singer Hayley Kiyoko since 2018, she waited four years before publicly acknowledging her relationship. While it felt strange when everyone learned about it, she realized the positive effect of openly sharing who she is.

She explained to TopMob News in June 2022 that this situation was about much more than just her and her partner. She felt it was important if her experience helped others feel good about who they love, that outweighed any personal anxieties she had. Reading comments about this impact was incredibly humbling, and it made her realize how meaningful even something as simple as love and sharing it can be.

I remember when Troye first shared his story publicly – it was a YouTube video, about three years after he’d come out to his family when he was just 15. He later talked about how that decision happened at a really important time in his life, a pivotal moment, as he put it. It felt so brave and inspiring to watch him be so open, and it really resonated with a lot of us. It was a big deal!

He explained to People in February 2022 that he was on the verge of signing his record contract and felt strongly about controlling his public image. “I didn’t want anyone else dictating how I came out,” he said. “I wanted the freedom to explore, go to gay clubs, meet people, and write honest, heartfelt songs about love.”

The Selling Sunset star-who is married to singer G Flip-emphasizes how crucial it is to make taking care of yourself a priority.

According to Chrishell, who started dating the Australian singer in 2022 and spoke with TopMob News, a loving partner should prioritize your joy above all else. She emphasized, “Never change yourself to fit what others want for you. Your life is your own, and you only get one chance to live it.”

This TikTok creator-who is openly gay and attends an all-boys high school-is using his account to inspire people to embrace their true selves and feel confident in who they are.

Honestly, I already *know* people are going to have opinions about who I am, it totally depends on who’s listening, you know? Like, Chris told TopMob News back in October 2022, and it really resonated with me. He said one of the things he’s *trying* to do with having this platform – and I feel this so hard – is to just, like, show that being who he is isn’t some big deal. He wants to break down all the assumptions and just be…normal. It’s amazing, really. I’m just so here for it.

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2025-09-30 22:50