Kerry Washington Shares Rare Glimpse at Life With Nnamdi Asomugha

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Kerry Washington’s followers saw the world from her husband Nnamdi Asomugha’s eyes.

The actress known for her role in Scandal playfully participated in a popular TikTok trend, posting some funny, less-than-flattering photos taken by her husband.

Kerry started a video on January 3rd with a glamorous shot of herself enjoying coffee, accompanied by text saying, “felt pretty then I opened my husband’s camera roll…” She then shared a collection of intimate photos found on his phone—close-ups of her sleeping on vacation, selfies she’d sent him, and other candid pictures he’d taken of her.

The 48-year-old joked about the photos once more, adding a caption that read, “felt cute, might delete later.”

People jokingly asked Kerry Washington if she was referring to her actual husband, who she’s been married to since 2013, or her Scandal co-star, Tony Goldwyn, with whom she remains close.

 “Which husband, Kerry?” one fan quipped, as another added, “U know Fitz would never.” 

Kerry seemed bothered by the comments, but another user explained that she likely meant her husband, Nnamdi Asomugha.

Kerry Washington and her husband, Nnamdi Asomugha, generally prefer to keep their relationship private. However, the actress recently shared the story of when they realized they were being too secretive about their love for each other. They are parents to Isabelle, 11, and Caleb, 9.

Kerry recently shared in an interview with InStyle that despite being public figures, she and her husband maintain a degree of privacy. She recalled an instance from almost two years ago at a fashion show in Italy where a staff member took a lovely photo of them. Kerry wanted to share it online, but her husband questioned whether that was a good idea.

She explained that after ten years of marriage, they hadn’t shared a single photo of themselves as a couple. Both being actors who strive for authenticity in their roles, they’re very private people and prefer to keep their personal lives separate from the public eye.

For more stars who have opened up about their long-lasting marriages, keep reading…

In their 2020 book, What Makes a Marriage Last, Hermann revealed he never expected to share so much laughter with his wife of over 20 years, Marlo Thomas. He described a dedication to joy as a core part of who she is and what makes their relationship work. He believes their marriage thrives because they love each other unconditionally, which he defines as true grace.

He also shared that finding humor is essential, even during disagreements. After a heated argument, one of them will often try to lighten the mood with a joke about the very thing they were fighting over. As Hermann explained about life with the Law & Order: SVU star, this signals a willingness to reconnect and find common ground. Once they start moving in that direction, he feels confident they can resolve their issues.

The couple has managed to avoid major changes in their relationship by consistently following the advice they received before getting married in 2003. Even with five children, they prioritize weekly date nights and have chosen to connect with each other in ways other than watching TV.

Chip says the best advice he can give is to passionately pursue the person you love. After twenty years, he still approaches their relationship like he’s trying to win a second date. He jokes that while he can’t guarantee anything, his wife won’t be unfaithful because he consistently shows her love and appreciation through gestures like flowers and remembering special occasions.

Kevin Bacon jokingly advises against taking relationship advice from celebrities, reflecting on his 36-year marriage. He and his wife have a playful motto – “Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty” – which they use to quickly shut down any further discussion about their relationship.

But seriously, they prioritize resolving disagreements quickly and avoid prolonged arguments. As Bacon’s wife explained, they focus on finding solutions rather than winning. They simply don’t enjoy fighting and want to restore harmony as quickly as possible. Ultimately, she emphasized, they are committed to making things work, because they have no backup plan.

After over 37 years of marriage, the actors have learned how to argue constructively. As the Family Ties star explained, they avoid bringing up past hurts. “Some couples focus on their partner’s weaknesses and attack them, almost like a game,” he said, “but we don’t do that.”

They do have disagreements, of course. He admits he often wants to immediately take back hurtful things he says, but knows that doesn’t solve anything. Instead, he lets his wife take the lead and gives her space when she needs it. She, in turn, tries to be understanding, reminding herself, ‘He said something silly that upset me, but he’s a good person and probably didn’t mean to hurt my feelings. I’m going to give him the benefit of the doubt.’

In December 2024, ahead of their 40th wedding anniversary, Curtis shared on Today that her husband still makes her laugh more than anyone else. She playfully added that he must find something to like about her too, even if she doesn’t know what it is.

Neil Patrick Harris believes the key to his long-lasting relationship is accepting that relationships are constantly changing and hard to define. After 21 years together, navigating career changes – including his partner David Burtka’s cookbook release in 2019 – raising twins Gideon and Harper, and facing life’s challenges, Harris explained that marriage is never static. He shared that even intimacy evolves, and couples need to find new ways to connect and reignite attraction as they age. Ultimately, he says, you begin to fall in love with someone’s character, then their physical self again. It’s a continuous process of change, and in a way, they keep rediscovering their love for each other in different forms.

The comedic duo genuinely believe their laughter extends their lives, not just over their nearly two decades together. The actress from Can You Ever Forgive Me? explained that whenever they share a particularly hilarious moment – one that leaves them breathless – they calculate how much extra time it’s added to their lives. She jokingly keeps a running total, estimating that a great laugh could buy her “two more months to live!”

They also limit how long disagreements can last. Following the advice to never go to bed angry, Falcone shared that she once tried letting an argument linger overnight, but realized she’d forgotten what she was even upset about. She believes trying to resolve issues when everyone is tired or has had something to drink is unproductive. She’s never had a late-night argument end with a satisfying resolution and a truce.

Both having been married previously, the couple met in 1995 and quickly found themselves blending families, each with two children. The actor from Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist remembers realizing early on that the children already had mothers, and she didn’t need to try to replace them. Instead, she decided to be a supportive figure in their lives. “Everyone needs a cheerleader,” she thought, “and you can never have too many.” She intentionally avoided setting rules or trying to teach them right from wrong, understanding that was the role of their parents. The Cheers actor completely agreed, adding that offering friendship is a smart approach. “It’s about saying, ‘I’m not here to discipline or judge, I’m here to spend time with you and support you.’ That’s what really matters – genuinely being present for them.”

When same-sex civil unions became legal in Britain, musician Elton John and his partner David Furnish had a ceremony on December 21, 2005, to celebrate their relationship. They formalized their marriage with another ceremony on the same date nine years later. However, they actually celebrate their anniversary on the day they first met – at a dinner party in 1993 at John’s home in Windsor, England, organized by a mutual friend.

Every Saturday, no matter where they are in the world or if they’re together, the couple writes each other a handwritten note. Over the years, they’ve written around 1,352 letters. Furnish believes handwriting adds a personal and meaningful touch, and the cards provide a chance to reflect on the past week and discuss the one ahead. John agrees, saying that consistent communication is key to a long-lasting relationship.

After quietly building a 40-year marriage – she even dreamed of meeting him six months before they did – they’ve consistently made their relationship a central part of their lives, even as everything else has changed.

“Marriage is our priority, and we actively work at it, refocusing when we lose track,” she explained. If she could offer one piece of advice, it would be to always prioritize that bond. He passionately affirmed, “I would do absolutely anything for her – face any challenge, make any sacrifice. I might mess up and even make her angry, but nothing would ever stop me from showing her my love.”

He added that if you believe marriage is key to your happiness, you’ll always protect it from anything that could threaten it.

ABC News reporter Roberts admits she doesn’t enjoy casual check-in calls. “I don’t like it when people call just to ask ‘How are things?'” she said. However, a friend helped her change her perspective on a frequent caller – a beloved TV weatherman.

He called often, and she found it irritating until a friend suggested he might simply feel comforted by hearing her voice, assuring him everything was okay. Roberts realized this was a sweet thought she hadn’t considered before. “If it means something to him, then it should mean something to me,” she thought.

Now, she takes a moment to be kind, saying something like, “I’m busy, but what’s new with you?” and letting him know she’s happy to hear from him before ending the call. She says this small gesture makes a huge difference to him, and it’s worth two minutes of her time to be pleasant. The couple celebrated their 29th anniversary in September 2024.

Their almost 30-year marriage started building its foundation early on, even during disagreements. They recall one fight where the actor playfully tossed the talk show host’s ring out the window, but it felt like it could end everything. The talk show host explained that in the beginning of a marriage, small issues can quickly become major problems – whether it’s money troubles, work stress, or the challenges of raising children while exhausted. However, her husband taught her the importance of stepping away and taking a moment to calm down, realizing that not every disagreement needs to be a deal-breaker. Now, as parents of three, they’re enjoying the rewards of that lesson. The actor believes that truly happy couples have faced difficult times together and overcome them, and that’s something to celebrate.

She describes herself as an introvert, almost a loner, while he’s incredibly outgoing – he jokingly calls himself “the mayor of everywhere.” She’s a bit messy, and he admits to being “a little OCD.” But after being married since 2003, they’ve learned to accept each other’s differences.

That’s the advice the lead actress from How to Get Away With Murder gives to friends who are getting married. She believes marriage doesn’t begin at the wedding ceremony, but when you realize your partner has a quality that might annoy you – something that makes you wonder if you can handle it. But then, despite that, you realize you love them anyway. That’s when marriage truly begins.

Maintaining a long-term relationship, like any lasting over 50 years, requires quickly resolving conflicts. Jane Fonda, star of Grace and Frankie, explained that she usually takes the lead in apologizing. She finds it easy because she deeply loves her partner and doesn’t want them to feel alone, even for a short time. Ideally, she avoids situations where apologies are even necessary. Her biggest piece of advice is to remember that hurtful words spoken in anger will ultimately cause you more pain later. You’ll end up regretting what you said to someone you care about, creating a double dose of anger – which isn’t good for your health or the relationship.

It’s fitting that Jerry, a former judge, says his long marriage to the iconic Judge Judy works because he generally lets her have the final say. For her, it’s about accepting that you won’t always get your way. Their first marriage ended in 1990 because he wasn’t able to provide the support she needed after her father passed away. When they remarried a year later, she understood he wouldn’t suddenly become a homemaker or take charge of planning events.

She explained simply that unhappiness in relationships often comes from trying to change your partner. “You can try to make someone different, but they’ll always resent it,” she said. “Don’t marry someone expecting them to change who they are.”

The actor from Lost credits his wife with being the rock of their family. He told TopMob News in April 2025 that her patience and support throughout his career, which has involved a lot of travel and different jobs, have been essential. He described her as ‘fantastic’ and the one who kept everything stable.

The actor described his wife as incredibly patient, and said she and their two sons always keep him grounded, no matter the situation.

“They shape my values,” he added. “It’s great to have that perspective and North Star.”

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2026-01-05 19:48